My colleague, Tita Jing, lent me this DVD of the movie “Faith like Potatoes” and the VCD copy of “The Chronicles of Narnia: the Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe.” The former was something that Tita Jing recommended to me. The latter was one of my requests. Of course, it was Narnia that I watched first. Then Faith like Potatoes.
Both movies are okay. I’ve read the book of the Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe by C.S. Lewis and I still prefer the book than the movie. In Faith Like Potatoes, I like the characters of the story than the story itself. But it was still nice, full of positivity, which is what I need. But thank you to Tita Jing, to the movie Faith like Potatoes. Because if I haven’t watched it, I wouldn’t have seen the trailer of this movie called “Fireproof.” The trailer simply moved me.
So upon returning the compact discs, I asked Tita Jing if she has a copy of Fireproof movie. She has! She not only lent me “Fireproof,” she also shared with me her copy of the movies “Amistad,” “Nacho Libre,” “Flywheel,” and “Facing the Giants.” All five of them! So that left me with no option but to just stay at home and enjoy the movies! Of course, it was Fireproof that I watched first. One that I requested.
Fireproof is a story about a troubled marriage. About a fireman and his relationship with his wife. A marriage that is doomed to fail.
Ironically, the husband is a brave, kindhearted fireman, saving lives in the middle of fire, a hero to everybody except to his wife. His wife, on the other hand, is a beautiful, charming, hardworking, fine woman. Forced to get a job in a hospital to help pay for their growing household expenses, her work became her refuge to deal with her topsy-turvy relationship with her husband whom she hates so much.
What ever happened to these two wonderful individuals who were once in love and made that vow in front of God to stay together no matter the odds? They are okay individually, doing well with their respective jobs but at home, when they are together, they would always fight. They don’t sleep together anymore, don’t eat together, and would act as strangers around one another.
The wife would seek comfort from her female group of friends at work and aging parents, especially her mom who became mute because of sickness, her mom who inspired her to marry someone like her dad who was also fireman. And her pain was indescribable, wishing her mom could talk to her. The husband, meanwhile, was also doing the same thing, venting out his issues about his wife with his trusted friend at work, a happily married man, and also to his old folks back home, especially his father whom he feels understands him more than his mother does. Both husband and wife confessed to their respective supporters/friends that they were thinking of divorce.
Friends of the wife advised her to go on with her plan. That she doesn’t deserve him. But the father of the husband advised his son to postpone his plan. To hold it for 40 days and hang on still to save his marriage. His father said, “Just take it one day at a time.” Each day he must do something nice for his wife. And he should do this for 40 days. Then see what happens. “It’s what saved my marriage to your mom,” his father said.
So one day, his son received “A Love Dare” notebook chronicling the steps to woo his partner back and bring back the closeness they once had. What was amazing was that it was all beautifully handwritten by his dad. So on day one, his father wrote what he should do. On day two, another act of kindness to do. On day three, third step to get your partner’s attention, and so on and so forth. With this the son followed word per word each new day. And each day his wife would reject his surprising, no, shocking but kind gesture. Each day, when faced with disappointment, the husband would call his dad and vent out his rage about his wife. His dad advised him to hang on. That it was the hardest part and he needed to be tough if he really wants to save his marriage. His friend also said the same thing and gave these beautiful, touching words: “You don’t just follow your heart, because your heart can be deceived. You gotta lead your heart.”
After 40 days, he didn’t win his wife back. The wife filed for divorce. And this made his heart broken. He believed that he had done all that he could and still, he failed.
Until his wife got sick. Not following any guide, or notes from his dad, he took care of his wife. It was Day 43. At that moment, the wife revealed to him the notebook that contains the “steps” from his dad. She just found it lying around and again, this left her shocked, to come to the realization that her husband was, indeed, attempting to save their marriage. And this left her more confused, because at that moment, she had fallen in love with somebody else at work. But her husband didn’t know. At that given moment, her husband said sorry for all the things that made her feel bad as his wife. For the first time, her husband finally realized his mistakes, and deeply, sincerely regret them. Will she continue with the divorce or not?
Many exciting things happened after that. So many surprising and shocking revelations. I guess my favorite was discovering that the “kind, charming, and helpful” doctor who had a thing for the fireman’s wife turned out to be married! And he was taking advantage of the woman’s vulnerable situation to win her heart and have her for himself. My favorite also was the wife’s conversation with an elderly at work. When the elderly advised her that if a guy is courting her while she’s married, what makes her think that he wouldn’t do that with somebody else. (Great point grandma!)
Indeed, life is like a dance, filled with twists and turns. Because in the end, it was the wife who finally reached out to her husband and asked him to come back to her.
This movie is dedicated to married couples. But I think everyone, especially the singles, would be able to relate and learn something from this movie. Especially on lessons about commitment. Oh, and by the way, I liked that part regarding the “Love Dare” notebook that I said was beautifully handwritten by the fireman’s dad. I discovered in the end that it was the handwriting of his mom who was from long ago wrote those steps to help her save her marriage to her husband, the fireman’s dad. Shocked, Caleb (that’s the fireman’s name, by the way) cried so hard and hugged his mom, whom he so much misunderstood.